I’m going to simply place this available to you: if We had been single in Korea, I wouldn’t exactly be described as a hot commodity to Koreans. Even though this is simply a concept of mine, i do believe We have observed couples that are korean inside the previous 4-5 months to feel just like it is true. Here’s why…
Korean women can be seen by Korean males as porcelain dolls- pretty, fragile, slim, soft, nutritious, virtuous, and skinned that is extremely fair. Females here don’t strive to attain tanned, nicely toned and bodies that are athletic ladies in the U.S. do. To the contrary, they attempt to be really slim and soft, rather than in virtually any real means muscular or tan. Because of this, i’m that if we had been ever caught in a pet battle right here in Korea, i really could snap some of the ladies in half over my leg. Perhaps not that I would personally, though, of course.
Once you see couples in public areas right here, you will definitely constantly discover that the guy has
their hands round the girl, is holding her bag, their shopping bags, and all sorts of the whilst this woman is using stiletto heels (i possibly could compose a whole post on Koreans putting on stilettos at all times of time, while sightseeing, and even though putting on sweat pants, but i shall save your self that for the next time). A korean instructor of ours told us that the guys here definitely like to dote on the girlfriends. They always carry the woman’s bag and are usually making real experience of them for some reason all the time. Our instructor additionally told us that Korean women whine a complete great deal, and that their boyfriends think it is cute… actually, women? Really?!
We shall acknowledge that whenever We see those forms of couples whenever I’m back in the us, We roll my eyes. Right right Here, nonetheless, it is more widespread to see. In reality, it’s normal for partners to wear… brace yourself… matching clothing. I’m perhaps not dealing with a promise ring or matching bracelets, I’m speaking about matching black colored and PLAID that is yellow, or matching rugby shirts with matching shorts. (Jason and I really play a game title centered on this trend ( many many thanks Britt!); each time we come across a matching couple, we must function as the first anyone to say “same-sies” and now we arrive at strike the loser).
With myself as to why this may be the case in Korea although it’s difficult at times, I don’t like to judge other people based on what I may consider tacky, so I have attempted to reason:
- We now have heard off their Koreans and foreigners that having a boyfriend or gf isn’t as prevalent since it is straight straight back in the us. In reality, certainly one of our Korean buddies is enthusiastic about the thought of obtaining a girlfriend- that’s all he wishes but he can’t appear to get one. It appears in my experience that since dating just isn’t as casual right right here, whenever you are in a relationship it is made by it that much more special. Men wish to be sure that everybody knows the lady is theirs, so fundamentally these are generally peeing on the territory. Perhaps maybe Not certain if it warrants using matching jackets and tops, but hey, to each their particular.
- Korean moms and dads are notoriously strict in terms of their childrens’ partners. Arranged marriages nevertheless happen right here also, which claims a complete great deal concerning the tradition by itself. I could only suppose secret relationship is common right right here, and therefore if the partners are call at public it might be the only time that they may be together. Therefore, these are generally as affectionate towards one another while they could be in personal should they had the opportunity. Yet again, this is certainly a concept based solely to my findings, as well as in no real method reality.
- Due to the fact that ladies in Korea are incredibly thin, fragile-looking, and simply simply simply take pride in searching pretty at all times (and are also constantly putting on 4-inch heels) i really believe that this produces an extremely feminine and image that is delicate of; an image which makes the person would you like to nurture and care for the lady who can’t raise 15 pounds. Hence, they enjoy holding their shopping bags along with other things that are heavy.
- A few our friends right right here in Korea, who instruct English and also have Korean buddies, additionally told us another interesting relationship powerful that we thought was actually intense. Whenever a lady is in a relationship, she will not speak with just about any dudes, after all. Evidently it really is a indication of respect to her boyfriend (whom seems become extremely overly and insecure jealous) and also this means she can’t also communicate with her guy buddies anymore. We continue to have yet to verify this with any Koreans myself, but it is interesting that when We heard I started noticing that couples are never with anyone else about it. They truly are either alone, that will be almost all associated with partners we see, or they’ve been possibly with another few. Possibly this can additionally assist explain why relationships look therefore different right right right here.
Like I mentioned previously, they are just my thoughts that stem from a couple of findings that i’ve been noting in my own mind considering that the minute we arrived right here. We find these social points become fascinating and We additionally love individuals viewing and I also have always been quite good if I may say so, which makes me a great researcher for this type of subject at it. One of my favorite quotes comes from an episode from Intercourse as well as the City: “Some people do arts and crafts. We judge.” Perhaps perhaps Not that we judge individuals, but we report the things I see and hear. Just sayin’.